The Depths of Women and Self Perception Around Money

“The difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.”

Maya Angelou

Recently, I’ve gone deeply into the meaning of detachment and what it means to be fully embodied whilst practicing this ancient teaching. Something stood out like a zit on a smooth face…. I, like all of us, have adopted thoughts and beliefs from the collective, from friends, from partners and from my family. Some of these are bloody amazing! Some of them are so limiting. Some beliefs are rooted in both the masculine and feminine. Today I am focusing on the feminine aspect- and how it touches the lives of women. I have done loads of shadow work around sexuality, around deeply embedded wounds in the feminine and being a woman that is generational. Around healing capacities and how others might perceive me if I allow myself to be of service in this world. There is an extension to this is women in the financial world- not participating, or educating ourselves. Or limiting what we do earn, placing restrictions based on self worth, or belief. Staying ignorant to anything does not create change- so if you are a woman who hates ‘the system’, wouldn’t it be best to know how it works so that your money could be used to help create change, instead of being ignorant which opens the door to becoming a victim? It’s time to step up.



As part of my shadow work with this for myself, I joined a live stream for an investment option which I was intrigued about. A man on a livestream of his financial institution I was on to educate myself once rather arrogantly declared a response to me after I typed a response to a question he asked in the chat, ‘education is power.’ He explained how wrong this is. I could feel a little trigger, so I knew this to have truth for me in it, he said, “Education isn’t power, action is”. If it wasn’t for this words, delivered on a large live by the loud and ambitious man in the finance business, I wouldn’t have ventured into this at all. What a gift. My ‘action’ was diving into this huge shadow and outdated belief structures I was living under. It wasn’t buying into his financial investment option! Set on course for this, one question I asked myself as I curiously dove into the wonderful world of women and finance, I asked myself the question, “What is stopping the ‘action’ part for me then?” I had to detach myself from the outdated belief structures and feel myself and my own energy. From here it took me further into myself and this shadow work, I began to learn, listen to podcasts, take courses, read books, listen to audiobooks. I was fascinated with this question.

I dove into these little facts:-
* Thousands of years of men creating money and women in the support role
* Women were seen as ‘property’ and the origin of marriage set up to aid this
* Women not given the vote
* Mainstream living opposing much of the strengths of women



Now, I’m not beating up on men, because in this fast paced world, the pressure has been on men to stay in this role. And that pressure is showing. I’m simply exposing the root of the cause we see today, and unless something drastically changes it will continue. One thing we haven’t looked at is the impact that generation after generation after generation of not needing to earn or create money, and what that has to do with the way so many women are now. Sometimes not even being allowed to make money. Of outdated but often carried beliefs such as ‘I won’t find a man who wants me if I make money’, or ‘don’t be greedy’ or the guilt of not being with children because you may have the outdated belief deep down that says mothers should stay home with their children, how about this one- ‘women should sacrifice their life for their family’. OOMPH! Outdated beliefs are HIDDEN, so you could be reading this and thinking that isn’t related to me- I implore you to go deeper, to listen to thoughts and write them down- find the cause of them and accept them, see them. Actively work to change them- moving the body, creating a meditation specific for this, AND getting support. Having outdated beliefs leads to uncertainty, a lack of self esteem and a continued catastrophic issue of women not having freedom of choice in this world. It’s all there, in our lines. I just had to shine a light on it. It was hurting not to share.

I am so passionate about this, I can feel an embodiment class around this soon. It takes more than thought and mantras to move deeply embedded beliefs from our body and mind. Let’s overcome how we think about ourselves. Stay tuned…..
With love,

Elise

Enough is Enough

It breaks me. It makes me sink to my knees perplexed at how we have managed to end up here. In this place where it is a rarity to collectively feel relaxed, happy and content. Where we don’t say the words, ‘It’s just the way it is. What do you do?’ Do? DO?

I’m not buying it any longer. Stay on your lounge eating potato chips while the world around you slowly dies. Stay glued to the TV while you numb yourself from thoughts about the stresses of the days work. Stay looking at the next holiday so you can escape this madness for a while- maybe you can pay it off? Maybe you’ll get a nasty credit card bill that only adds to your stress when you return. Return. RETURN!

Return, that’s it. If you stay glued to this cycle then you won’t know what else life can offer…. and there IS SO MUCH MORE. But it takes guts. It takes change. It takes not fucking throwing your life away on sedentary, numbing, melancholic things or practices. It takes challenging yourself to learn new things. It takes doing things just for yourself to enjoy. It takes stopping those thoughts of ‘I can’t, I have no time.’ What have you done? To have no time to live? What has happened to you? When did you stop fucking loving yourself??? Leading by example of how interesting and limitless life can be? Did you ever watch your parents or an adult having no time as a kid? Did it look like fun? Did it look like a good use of energy? Time to break free of this outdated pattern structure within us. Don’t worry, your family will still exist and love you. It’s time to consciously look at why we do the things we do, and take our sovereign power back.

I’m not writing this to get you to feel shame. I’m writing this to shake you up, shake you a little to let some of the truth seep in. You are in charge of your life. Not your kids, not your husband, not your job…. YOU. Take responsibility for this and make the change. You know WHAT needs to happen inside. YOU know what YOU uniquely love. Come back to YOU. Even if it’s rising 30 minutes before the house hold to do something just for you- yoga, a work out, meditation, drawing, writing… whatever it is. Give yourself the time. Like a long lost friend coming to town to see you- you’d create time for them, right? Well, do it for YOU! Daily! What do YOU NEED? You’re bloody well worth it. And your relationships will thrive the more you thrive.

It’s time to give back to Self. It’s time to create space. It’s time to stop looking outwards and start to make the changes to come back into our own power. For when we shift our internal world, the world around us shifts too. And you become a beacon of light, living by example of the fact it can be done. Change can happen and it’s worth it, even if it’s an internal shift. Pass on the torch. Be the change. I’m with you.

With love
Elise

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